Circles

As usual, I go to people that have more experience in life when I am feeling distraught. Either Julie or Christine.  Last night I went to see Julie.

Life has it ways of turning the tables. And these last few days has been like looking at myself a  couple years ago, and I being put into the position of my sister.

I’ve been given another perspective. Which can only mean I have grown, and am not as naive and gullible as I use to be. I have gained wisdom.

It kind of sucks though, being in this position. You feel completely helpless. After awhile you realize there is nothing you can do but let go, and let things run it’s coarse. I’ve done what I can and shared what I know, shared my own experiences.

When you care about someone, you don’t want to see them suffer. Not only is it painful for them, but it is painful for the people around them. And as much as you try to warn, try to help, you cannot force. Even though you wish you could.

As much as I hate hearing about it. I will just have to do what my sister did for me. She may not have liked or agreed with my choices, but she was always there. Even when I pushed her away, she waited until I let her back in. She welcomed me with love.

I can only pray and hope that she’ll be okay, and no harm comes her way. Just as I did, she is giving him the benefit of the doubt. And continuously forgiving his repetitive “choices”. I kept trying to tell her, you cannot change someone. Although she keeps trying. That, and pressuring marriage because she’s co-dependent. I keep saying slow down, get to know the guy. Love is acceptance. She’s even somewhat in denial, saying that it is okay that he treats her this way, she’s had ex-boyfriends that treated her worse.

As for the way she’s been starting to treat me, my friend brought up an excellent point. She doesn’t have any control in her relationship, so she is trying to find something she can grasp some control on; her friends.

I will pray for her. Abuse is a vicious cycle, and it is hard to get out of. He’s verbally abused her for a year now, so obviously she’s not that confident as she makes herself out to be. It will continue until she believes she deserves better than that. – Pooks