“You’ve got enemies? Good. That means you actually stood up for something in your life.” – Eminem
I thought that was a good quote to start my blog with. Because once again, my opinion is getting me more haters.
Or doing things such as standing up for others or myself, heaven forbid I do that.
Remember how I started hanging out with a couple that an old friend had mocked and criticized? Being a maggot I am to stick up for the underdogs. Well… things have changed. I don’t mind the female, but it’s the male that got on my nerves. It started off with a small annoyance, he likes to comment wherever that doesn’t relate to what I have posted on my FB wall. If he’s gonna do that, and try to start a conversation that is unrelated to what I post, than he could just post directly on my wall, not on a post.
Anyway, I posted an article about Johnny Lewis‘ death. This guy made a comment like; “Having fun?” on that post. It came across as rude and unrelated to what I posted. Like, seriously, I just posted about somebody’s death, and that’s what you have to say?! So we bickered. I tried to explain to this dude about just commenting directly on my wall, and not on what I post, and he flips out. He goes and says: “What is wrong with you?” What is wrong with me?? He’s implying that something is wrong with me. That’s not cool. I am just the way I am designed to be, the way the creator made me. There is nothing wrong with me. So yeah, I found that rude. I said that he needs to work on wording things better. Friends don’t say “What is wrong with you?”, they ask, “Are you okay?” Things just kind of exploded from there. Had he just dropped it and stopped pestering me, other issues wouldn’t have been brought to the surface. But they did. Probably better off that they did and that I spoke up, other wise I’d still be silent and tolerating shit that I shouldn’t have to.
So what got brought to the surface? This guy is planning to wed his girlfriend. Yet he cannot keep his hands to himself. Whenever we hung out, I was getting groped, poked, he’d slap my ass, grab my ass, etc. He even fixed my hair to get it out of my face. I’m sorry, but that kind of shit is what you should be doing to YOUR GIRLFRIEND. Yet she does not say anything about it. She’s too passive. All he has to do is raise his voice, and she scurries like a mouse. If it were me, and I was in a relationship, I sure as hell would not approve of my man fondling and groping another woman. That’s just wrong. So damn rights, I called him out on his behavior (ahem, sexual harassment) , and of coarse he did not like that one bit. So we are no longer friends.
I don’t have anything against his girlfriend. I think she’s sweet. I just wish she would stand up for herself sometimes.
So that’s one dispute I had gotten into. Burning yet another bridge. I don’t seem to be doing a good job at maintaining friendships lately. But if something seriously bothers me, I need to express it.
Fm96 had posted something about Johnny Lewis’ death on Facebook. You’re probably wondering who this Johnny Lewis guy is. He is an actor, he played as Kip “Half Sack” Epps on Son’s of Anarchy. Which is a show I am a huge fan of. His death had a messed up story behind it. He killed his 81 year old land lord, her cat, and his body was found on the driveway. It is assumed that he had fallen from a great height, a staircase, or the roof. Anyway, it was discovered that he had a mental health issues, as well as drug addiction. Kurt Sutter, the writer of Sons of Anarchy said that he wasn’t surprised when he heard the news, because he noticed that Johnny was heading down a destructive path. He also said that it was unfortunate that an innocent life has been taken on that destructive path.
I am a huge Sons of Anarchy fan. Kurt Sutter is definitely a talented writer, and he draws fans in and keeps them hooked.
Anyway, back to this FM96 ordeal. They posted a picture of Johnny Lewis along with the following phrase: “Sons Of Anarchy actor, Johnny Lewis, aka ‘Half-Sack’ was found dead after allegedly murdering his 81-year-old lady. What???” I spoke up on this, because they made it sound like he was going out with an 81 year old lady. Which wasn’t true at all. So I said: “Not “His” old lady. His 81 year old land lord. I think playing a role on Sons got to his head. That tends to happen to actors sometimes. Have some respect, rather than tryin to twist words to change the story. It’s messed up enough as it is.” Another Fm96 listener said that “Saying it was because he was on that show is just stupid it has nothing to do with his role in the show, and all you make a big deal about it being his land lady clearly they knew that I got what they meant quit picking out the little things wrong when we all know you get the picture! Sad story clearly drugs or something was involved.” So I explained that in a lot of interviews with actors you’ll find that many do say that their roles do tend to rub off on them. (Maybe it wasn’t Sons specifically, he did play other violent roles in other tv series.) Anyway, I agreed that drugs probably played a big part. I also said: “And I’m sorry, but there is a big difference by saying his “old lady” compared to his “landlord”. Yes, the way things are worded do make a difference. Especially if your going to post it publicly. The way they had it, was like he was goin out with an old lady or something. It sends the wrong message. Get the facts right, word it right. Respect the dead!” This dude made a comment like “I think they know he’s not dating an 81 year old.” That’s besides the point, that’s exactly how rumors are started. Then this other guy hell bend over addicts comes into the conversation saying that Johnny is just a disgusting drug addict. I said that that was a bit judgmental. “Addicts are people too. There’s a lot more to them than a lot of people realize. A lot of pain that they don’t really know how to deal or cope with. Calling him a disgusting drug addict is like saying your superior. No one is better than the next.” Anyway, this guy claims that he’s better somehow. That people are created equal, but don’t stay that way. That he’s been around his fair share of addicts. He had a crap ass attitude. He was all like: “Fuck addicts! They made their choice. I will judge them as I see fit. ” So I said that I have been around my share of addicts too. I tried to explain that even though their actions may not be the best, they are still good people. When they aren’t using they are just like you and I, regular people. I refuse to treat addicts like they are forsaken, as if they deserve the worst or something. I tried to explain that addicts battle constantly on a daily basis something sober people cannot comprehend. It’s a never ending battle for the rest of their lives. They made a choice, I agree. But it led them into a vicious cycle. I encourage sobriety and I do root addicts on to recovery. He said that addiction may be classified as a disease but it takes away any accountability for the addict. And unless they take the necessary steps to get clean he does not respect them. And here is why, he poured it all out. I guess addicts have pulled a gun on him, and knives on a number of occasions. The truth comes out. I too have a personal reasoning on my end, I have seen people I love fall into addiction. I’ve seen what it does. How they treat others. But that will not change the way I feel for these people. Yeah I got angry sometimes. Yes I’ve been hurt. But I don’t stop loving. I did not bring that up though in this conversation. Unlike this guy, who thinks just because of his experiences that addicts are flat out bad people. He claims to be “better than some junkie drain on society.” Another guy came into the argument and started to stick up for my side so to speak. They bickered. Basically after that one guy shared his personal story. I backed off. Clearly he has his own issues to work out. So instead, I posted some more articles explaining what had happened with Johnny Lewis. Then the guy that had said “saying it was because of a show is just stupid” previously in the argument, had returned and accused me of being an addict myself for sticking up for drug addicts.
Rrrright. Anyone that accuses me of doing drugs (such as my ex and “his boys” for example), are all wrong. Just a bunch of people that will turn out to look like the idiots in the end. Anyone that truly knows me, knows damn well that I don’t do drugs. My only addictions are coffee and cigarettes.
So yeah, I’ve been gaining more haters lately. But at least I am standing up for myself, and what I believe in.